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Been thinking a lot about FEARS and LOVE the last couple of days.

Yeahhhh. Fears and Love. Love and Fears.

I was thinking about how FEARS change as we get older. This ranges from simple things that scare us to the things that make us wanna hide in our metaphorical fear-proof bomb shelters.

Little things. Like riding a bike. I’m not scared of riding a bike, but I THINK about the action of riding a bike a lot more NOW than I did when I was a kid. The motion of the pedals. The turning of the handle bars. Other cars on the road and how much it would hurt if I fell off at this or that speed.

I mean, falling HURTS. I fell off my bike a LOT when I was a kid. The first time I rode without training wheels, I fell into a holly bush. But I got back up. And I didn’t think about it the next time I rode. I shook it off. That was EASY back then.

Before, falling wasn’t a fear. If it happened, it hurt, but I got back up and I didn’t think about it. Same thing happened when I climbed trees and when I crossed creeks on shaky rocks, building dams and looking for crawfish.

Now the act of falling IS a fear, because I KNOW it hurts. It’s a weird fear, though, because it’s more of an ANTICIPATION fear than anything else. I mean, if you land in a soft spot after the “fall” and it doesn’t hurt when you land, then the jump was a good decision, right? But when you THINK about the possibility of landing in the wrong place, it’s SCARY. AS. HELL.

Fears SUCK, man.

And LOVE.  John Lennon said “Love is REAL.’ I agree, and it’s amazing.

But the world is against love. It’s against something beautiful and simple and great.

I don’t mean the idea of love, or the ACT of love, or even letting love HAPPEN. Don’t worry about that. I mean, love is the LIGHT in the DARKNESS of the world. It’s everywhere.

I’m talking about RELATIONSHIPS. I’m not talking about my own relationship or anybody’s in particular, but about an observation.

The world is against a good, CLASSIC romantic relationship. It could be money or time that brings it down. It could be another man or another woman. It could be DISTANCE. It could be commitment to a JOB and the pressure from society that tells us to WORK until we’re old so we can even HAVE the money that causes problems in our relationship. It could be crazy families. Maybe the mother or the sister or the cousin of your significant other throws you under the bus for one reason or another and whispers bad vibes into your partner’s ear. Who knows.

The elements working AGAINST a good relationship are EVERYWHERE.  But they work out.  And why?

Because Love DOESN’T suck the way Fear does.

No. Love is AWESOME. It IS real.

The trick is finding a way to beat the Fear and embrace the Love and make it ALL work, and when you really think about it, we’re ALL capable of this. 

We can ALL have our cake and eat it, too.

Workin’ on a way to make this happen.

Goodnight.

Drew